You viewed my MySpace profile... why haven't you called?
With prodding from my sisters, I signed up for a Friendster account a few months ago. It seemed innocent enough... just a new way to stay in touch with old friends and family.
It took me three days to write my profile, which turned out to be fairly boring and certainly not an accurate representation of who I am. I spent at least two sleepless nights trying to decide which books and movies would best communicate the core of my inner being. I even had a professional photograph taken so that I would have a flattering picture of myself to display on my profile page.
Since then, I've been getting into other online networking sites, including LinkedIn and MySpace.
Many of these sites offer torturous features like a community ranking system where people can vote on how cool or attractive you are, and all seem to focus on how many people are already linked to you. What does it say about me that I only have seven friends? My sister has 42 friends and one of her friend's friends has 113.
Now, I spend at least two hours a day, logging in, making sure I still look pretty enough and seeing who has viewed my profile recently.
When I see that someone has viewed me, I check out their profile to see who they are and then I wonder... what did you think when you read my profile? Why didn't you send a virtual hello? Are you working up the courage to send me a private message or did you think I was too plain? What are your friends like and are they more attractive or wittier than me? And now that I've viewed your friends' profiles, why haven't they obsessively checked to see who viewed them and then clicked on my profile to see who I am? When your friends do view my profile, will they encourage you to contact me or will you all laugh about my music interests and my failed attempts at humor behind my back?
I'm doubtful that I'll ever meet someone with whom I can have a sustained relationship with via these sites. But I'll keep logging on, trying to build my network and trying to get a ranking higher than 4. Next time you're online, log in and if you want... you can send me a friend request. I promise, I won't reject you the way that Subdeep611 apparently rejected me.
Posted by Jenn on August 9, 2006 10:29 AM
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Actually, you can't do it on myspace yet (as far as I know) -- although I would be surprised if that doesn't change. You can definitely do it on friendster and some of the smaller sites.
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